Courage, Dear Heart.
It's not about what you do, it's about how you do it.
Showing up for yourself- again and again and again. This is true courage.
In the beginning of my grief journey, and a new relationship with my emotional body, I didn't know how this simple act would change me.
For the majority of my life, I resisted showing up for my emotional body landscape fully.
I didn't have the skills, resources or awareness to show up in presence, to hold myself in the challenges, to find the resources in my pain.
Emotional body literacy is vital for awakening- moving away from an autopilot existence.
Resistance and avoidance to what is moving through your inner terrain means that important needs are not being met. Repeatedly.
This results in longstanding systemic malnourishment- issues, challenges, behaviors and choices that will impact your life in less than fulfilling ways.
The resistance and suppression of your emotional body has dire consequences for all four levels of your being- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.
But there is another way.
A way that takes practice. Patience. Willingness and skillfulness.
The act of arriving in presence- presence of your emotions- is the most courageous thing you can do for yourself today.
When you show up in this way for yourself repeatedly, your skillfulness increases.
My grief journey has been a powerful resource of awakening.
Not because it was a joyful or comfortable ride. It has been the most powerful change agent for me because it was anything but comfortable.
My grief forced me to keep looking at my emotions- even when I didn't want to. Even when the pain was intolerable.
Grief amplifies the emotional body.
And if you can skillfully learn to work with the waves of grief, your emotional body relationship will also dramatically shift. It can become a resource for nourishment, rather than only pain.
In my grief process, I've learned that the most courageous thing I can do for myself is to keep arriving. Arriving within.
I've learned how to keep showing up for myself. For my grief, for my path, for my self, for my needs, for my heart. With practice, this process has become more integrated and easy.
My willingness to keep arriving within and leaning into my pain, has been like a mantra, a tuning fork. Turning me inward- again and again.
What is arriving now?
What do I feel now?
What do I need now?
The courage to keep showing up for yourself- in your pain- is the warrior's path.
This is the path of Karma Yoga. The bravery to continue to step towards self- no matter the weather. No matter what's arriving within the inner landscape.
This is your empowerment. It is the beginning of creating deeper self trust. It is a dedication to your own resiliency, to life.
Death has slowly taught me how to live again.
Through my willingness to face my own darkness, I'm learning how to hold both- life and death together.
In the face of your deepest pain and darkness, you can keep arriving home.
Use my Creative Ritual below to support this process of arriving home within, deepening your resiliency and inner stability.
I'm here to support your journey of coming home.
Have courage Dear One.
You are on a warrior's path.
Creative Ritual for Returning Home
Make a list. What resources do you use for returning home- to stability, self-trust, safety and security? How do you get back home- to your sacred center?
Notice what is alive and providing support for you, what is feeling nourishing and supportive, and what are the resources you have been relying on for greater nourishment.
The intention of this creative ritual is to spark something within.
To solidify your resources and ground you in the sensation of greater self trust.
Part I. Coming Home Embodiment Dance.
1. Start your "Coming Home" embodiment dance from standing or lying down. Begin by bringing presence to a body part within you that feels like a resource. Is there a part of your body that provides you with a sense of stability, comfort and nourishment? Can you sense this feeling in your body somewhere? Let this be your primary body part resource for your dance. Then begin to move from this body part. Let it activate and inspire your Coming Home dance.
2. As you continue to move with your primary body part, note how the rest of your body responds. How does it connect to the rest of your body? How does it respond and move with the rest of your body? How does the rest of your body respond to it? Let your dance develop as the rest of your body moves with your primary body part resource. Return to the body part in the close of your dance and note the sensations present by doing a 3 level check in. Take at minimum 10 minutes for this portion of the Creative Ritual.
Read more and complete part 2 of this Creative Ritual- the Harvesting portion