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How Grief Can Give You More Joy
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One of the biggest lessons of my grief has been to learn how to be with my deepest, darkest emotions.
I didn't have a choice. The pain was so immense, I had to touch it. I had to feel it. Every day, all day. My acute grief taught me how to sit with my pain and learn how to be in a relationship with it. I also learned to give myself permission to feel what I feel. |
Most of my life I resisted feeling my big feelings. I was never taught that it was safe to express my anger, pain, sadness and grief. I was told that "messy" emotions should not be seen or heard. As a result I learned to feel shame and guilt for having big emotions.
Grief has taught me a vital lesson: Big emotions are not only ok, they are welcome and necessary. We need to feel deeply in order to heal.
Grief has taught me a vital lesson: Big emotions are not only ok, they are welcome and necessary. We need to feel deeply in order to heal.
Tapping Meditation for Releasing Big Emotions
Use this short tapping meditation to release big emotions and make space for more love, joy and comfort in your life.
Use this podcast as you tap through these points:
Karate chop point (side of the hand).
Crown of the head.
Eyebrow point (above the eye).
Side of the eye.
Under the eye.
Under the nose.
Chin point (crease of the chin).
Throat point (collar bone/throat chakra).
Heart point (center of chest).
Stomach point (above the navel).
Side body (nipple line at side of chest).
Tap six to ten times on each point and just keep cycling through the points. Repeat the phrases I use aloud. Notice any thoughts, stories, memories or emotions that emerge as you tap. These are important pieces to return to, do more tapping on, as a way to clear blockages. As always, if the words I use don't work for you, change them to support your process more fully.
You say you want more love in your life. You want more joy. To feel more nourished. To feel safer, more connected. To be clearer about your life and purpose.
But, what does it actually take to feel more of the good stuff?
It requires that you're willing to face the hard parts as well. This is your grief work.
Over the past few weeks many people have been sharing their grief stories with me. I often see clients who are feeling stuck on some level of life. They have relationship problems, health complaints, money issues, or can't seem to find their purpose in life- or all of the above!
Often people will tell me:
"Yeah I've had a lot of losses in my life. My childhood was a mess! I used to feel overwhelmed with sadness and pain, but that's all over now!"
or this...
"I lost my mom five years ago, but I'm not grieving anymore. I've dealt with it and moved on."
This is the biggest mistake people make with their grief process. They think once they're functioning again, their grief journey is over.
Ending your relationship with your grief process is the worst thing that you can do for your healing journey. Unprocessed and undigested grief will result in dis-ease further down the road.
Grief requires that you deepen your relationship with your feelings, your emotional body, on an ongoing basis. Through your grief, there is a possibility of creating a healthier relationship with your emotions, but it requires your commitment to showing up for your feelings again and again. It requires a commitment to your grief work.
"Grief Work" means feeling your emotions consistently, regularly- daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. That you work with your emotional body cycles and rhythms.
Your grief work is an ongoing journey that can help you awaken and transform your darkest shadows, traumas and pain. The nature of emotion is to move, to clear, to release. Your emotions are a vital resource for healing and letting go.
Simply because we don't have a container or a space in our culture for emotions, for big emotions, for feeling the messy stuff in life, we push past it. Emotions easily get avoided and resisted. When emotions are neglected, they get stuck in the bodies- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Consider your grief work as a maintenance process.
This maintenance process is about giving yourself permission to feel your pain. Often we have to re-learn how to feel, but also that it is safe to feel. Simply because we were never taught that it is OK. That it allowed, safe, even acceptable to lean into your emotions- especially the uncomfortable ones.
If you have a family history of abuse, neglect, addiction, and loss, you'll have to work extra hard to heal your emotional body. You also have extra grief which requires your ongoing attention.
Here's the good news:
Your capacity to release and let go of your grief, to move your emotions and to awaken your emotional body wisdom, creates more space within you.
As you continue to create more space, you also have the ability to attract and create more of what you want and need. Your ability to clear and release your grief, determines your capacity to hold love and joy as well. So that you can feel more joy, more love, more nourishment, and more safety. The bottom line is you have to make space in the body for what you want and what you need by clearing out the layers of grief within you.
Moving your grief and releasing the layers of loss, allows you to feel more love, joy and ease.
Grief is intelligent and has wisdom to share with you. Are you ready to listen?!
Remember. You were never meant to grieve alone.
There is a community of support waiting to hold you. A grief tribe. You do not have to grieve alone. Join Us Now!!
I'm offering a powerful new course for those dedicated to their healing and awakening process- using the wisdom of your grief as the medicine. Get the Details
But, what does it actually take to feel more of the good stuff?
It requires that you're willing to face the hard parts as well. This is your grief work.
Over the past few weeks many people have been sharing their grief stories with me. I often see clients who are feeling stuck on some level of life. They have relationship problems, health complaints, money issues, or can't seem to find their purpose in life- or all of the above!
Often people will tell me:
"Yeah I've had a lot of losses in my life. My childhood was a mess! I used to feel overwhelmed with sadness and pain, but that's all over now!"
or this...
"I lost my mom five years ago, but I'm not grieving anymore. I've dealt with it and moved on."
This is the biggest mistake people make with their grief process. They think once they're functioning again, their grief journey is over.
Ending your relationship with your grief process is the worst thing that you can do for your healing journey. Unprocessed and undigested grief will result in dis-ease further down the road.
Grief requires that you deepen your relationship with your feelings, your emotional body, on an ongoing basis. Through your grief, there is a possibility of creating a healthier relationship with your emotions, but it requires your commitment to showing up for your feelings again and again. It requires a commitment to your grief work.
"Grief Work" means feeling your emotions consistently, regularly- daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. That you work with your emotional body cycles and rhythms.
Your grief work is an ongoing journey that can help you awaken and transform your darkest shadows, traumas and pain. The nature of emotion is to move, to clear, to release. Your emotions are a vital resource for healing and letting go.
Simply because we don't have a container or a space in our culture for emotions, for big emotions, for feeling the messy stuff in life, we push past it. Emotions easily get avoided and resisted. When emotions are neglected, they get stuck in the bodies- physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
Consider your grief work as a maintenance process.
This maintenance process is about giving yourself permission to feel your pain. Often we have to re-learn how to feel, but also that it is safe to feel. Simply because we were never taught that it is OK. That it allowed, safe, even acceptable to lean into your emotions- especially the uncomfortable ones.
If you have a family history of abuse, neglect, addiction, and loss, you'll have to work extra hard to heal your emotional body. You also have extra grief which requires your ongoing attention.
Here's the good news:
Your capacity to release and let go of your grief, to move your emotions and to awaken your emotional body wisdom, creates more space within you.
As you continue to create more space, you also have the ability to attract and create more of what you want and need. Your ability to clear and release your grief, determines your capacity to hold love and joy as well. So that you can feel more joy, more love, more nourishment, and more safety. The bottom line is you have to make space in the body for what you want and what you need by clearing out the layers of grief within you.
Moving your grief and releasing the layers of loss, allows you to feel more love, joy and ease.
Grief is intelligent and has wisdom to share with you. Are you ready to listen?!
Remember. You were never meant to grieve alone.
There is a community of support waiting to hold you. A grief tribe. You do not have to grieve alone. Join Us Now!!
I'm offering a powerful new course for those dedicated to their healing and awakening process- using the wisdom of your grief as the medicine. Get the Details