The Sun just landed in Scorpio.

This past month of debilitated Sun is finally complete. Now the light will begin to strengthen in the coming weeks. As Sun passes through Scorpio, your depths will be called upon, as well as grief, unconscious programming and past pain. 

Read more about Sun in Scorpio. 

There have been many complicated transits and increased challenges for months now. Once the Kala Sarpa yoga completes in January, some of the big highs and lows will start to even out. Right now, integration, balance and harmony between extreme polarities- inner and outer- is key.

Exalted Mars in Capricorn is sparking anger, violence and aggression right now. Sun in Scorpio can intensify these strong emotions, if we are not doing our inner work.

Anger is in fact a powerful emotion, a change agent. 

It reminds you that a boundary has been crossed, that something feels unfair, that you have been wronged in some way. When you experience anger, there is an opportunity to find clarity about your needs and step into your power with more purpose. 


Far too often though, anger becomes an unconscious reactive emotion that never gets to truly serve its purpose- to wake you up! 

Right now, the planet and particularly the United States, is being called into action. So many are feeling very old, deeply embedded anger and rage rise to the surface. 

You may be feeling anger as a result of your own personal mythology, as well as a result of the collective consciousness.


Allowing your anger to move through you is potent medicine. But even more important than it's movement, is actually harvesting from this emotion. 

Understanding the deeper layers of your anger can help you awaken to needs, more nourishment and empowerment.

What you don't want to do is suppress your anger, or use it in ways that harm yourself and others. 

Systemically suppressed anger can become depression- which is ultimately a result of resisting your power. Anger is in fact a resource for tapping into your power, purpose and dharma!

Here Are Four Ways to Release Anger Right Now:

#1 

Anger is often a first response emotion. It can become an addiction to feel anger- especially if this is the way you learned how to feel and express. 

Anger happens to be the most socially acceptable emotion, so most people default to anger quite easily. Step number one is to get into the habit of checking in with the four levels of your being and do a self audit. This process can help you identify the experiences happening within your inner landscape so you don't disconnect from your body and emotions. 

Do A Self Audit

#2

What are you angry about? Who are you angry at? Consider this your challenge. Now use my Challenge Creative Ritual to identify, move and transform your anger into potent awareness. 

#3

Move your anger safely. Release anger and rage by screaming, yelling, punching pillows, throwing things (without harming yourself or anyone/anything else) and stomping. Get the sound of your anger out in a safe, contained space. Let the emotion move out and through your body.

#4

Tap and Rant. EFT is a powerful resource for moving emotions- especially anger. Tap on the heart point in the center of the chest or tap through the points as you speak your anger aloud. Don't hold back. Tapping through the points as you express your anger, will support its movement and release, without it getting stuck in your body. 

Need some extra support? Use my Tapping Meditation Podcast for Big Emotions.  

#5

Ready to change your relationship with big emotions- especially challenging emotions like anger, grief and sadness?


I'm letting a few more people into my special nine month course- 
Awakening Through Grief, in light of the recent election.

So many people need this emotional body work! And our world family needs it too! 

If you are ready to use your grief as a powerful healing resource, please join me for this sacred journey into Heart and Spirit.

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This is the last chance to join Awakening Through Grief as we've already started classes!

Here's to your embodied and empowered path. One that is a re-connection of body, emotions, mind and spirit!


Swati*

​Today I hit my breaking point.

I've been bumping up against so many unmet needs recently. This process of confronting all my holes and emptiness intensified today. All the places in me where I feel empty. Places within where I don't feel nourished. These many places of malnourishment. The places in me that can't seem to get what they really need. This shows up as dissatisfaction, disappointment and loneliness. It is the part of me that feels separate from others and resists the nourishment it actually yearns for.

This place.

I took an unconscious, silent vow a long time ago. This vow has meant that I must stay in the role of giving and support. Support for my family and their needs; to be the caretaker in the tribe. I took this vow as a child in order to get certain needs met, to survive. I learned the duty of giving, yet I now lack the skill of asking for what I need, and the ability to fully receive.

Receiving is vulnerable territory.

I wasn't taught how to be in the role of receiving or how to ask for my needs to be met. As a result, many needs continue to go unmet. The malnourishment continues to emerge and the fear of being vulnerable enough to ask for what I really need, feels overwhelming. 

My mother was a powerful giver. 

She affirmed her love in extraordinary ways to me- daily. She showed up for me, spoke words of love and affirmation continually and constantly reminded me that I was loved and cherished, that I was a special part of this universe. Since her sudden passing several years ago, this void within me has deepened. It has felt impossible to fill my daily love quotient. So I have just about given up.

But these needs have not gone away. In fact, they are now starting to get louder. The emptiness is starting to be more forceful with me these days.

The painful emotions emerging recently have been helping me identify what it is that I truly need. There are many needs.

But today, I identified the biggest need right now: hearing words of affirmation; knowing that others see me and honor me for who I am, how I am. Part of me is still too terrified to really ask for these needs to be met in my intimate relationships. Part of me is still too afraid of being this vulnerable.

So I took these needs and these emotions with me on my evening walk. I tapped (EFT) on the pain- speaking aloud the story and the feelings, the emptiness, the vulnerability, the lack. I started to move these heavy emotions and the old stories; the wounding of always being in the support role and how uncomfortable it feels to fully receive. I tapped out this old story of my vow, my duty, to care take others and the weight of this responsibility.

On the other side of this story and these emotions, I found an opening.

I decided I needed to created a new practice. A practice to honor my needs and to actually practice how to express these needs. A way to actually practice how to ask for my needs to be met.

I invite you to join me in this practice of asking for your needs to be met.

It's a simple practice, but one that takes courage.

Step 1) 

Every day check in with your inner landscape. Start with a four level check in. Notice what's arriving on the four levels of your being. Pay close attention to the emotional body.

If you've been following along with my posts the past few weeks, I've been sharing resources specifically for the emotional body. By now you've heard me say that the emotional body helps us get our needs met. Why?! Because underneath the emotion you are feeling is in fact a need. A need that is either being met- or not being met. Your job is to ask and inquire about the underlying need. What is the need underneath the emotion?

Step 2) 

Identify what you need and find your words. For example say: "I need to hear that I matter." or "I need to hear that I'm cherished, loved and supported."  Today, I actually needed to hear that "life is going to turn out OK." Stick to the statement "I need" for now. 

Be as specific as you can. This is part of the practice. Identifying exactly what your need is. Notice how you want this need to be met- verbally, with an action, with presence, etc.

Step 3)

Vocalize what you need. The next step is to practice sharing your need with at least five close family or friends. People that you trust and feel safe with. Ask them exactly what you need and how you need them to show up for you. I encourage you to practice this daily. Check in with what you need, identify how you need this to be met, then practice expressing this need to others.

Pay close attention to the tone of your words as you speak your needs. Make sure you are asking from a place of loving kindness. You can also practice texting or emailing your needs to others.

Step 4)

Receive. The last piece is to receive the nourishment arriving. Allow yourself to be fed. When someone responds to your request with affirmation, presence or an action, allow yourself to receive it. How does it feel when your need is honored, when it is met? Where do you feel this in your body? Drop into the receptive and do so consciously. This is practice for arriving in receiving. A process of eating and digesting the nourishment of life.


I started this practice tonight. After receiving many offerings of love and gratitude, verbal nourishment, I feel full. My heart feels softer, gentler, more accepting and willing to surrender to life. 

I will be continuing this practice of receiving. Let's practice together!

Share your experiences with me below. Remember when you share a comment here, you are connecting directly with me.

In love gratitude for your whole being,

Swati*


I'll be sharing more resources in the coming days for those of you, like me, who are navigating the grief process- a lifelong journey of deepening your emotional body wisdom. Look for more resources, guidance and support coming in the next few weeks to support you with your healing and transformation through loss. I'll also be sharing a special offering for those of you dedicated to your spiritual awakening through grief. Follow Along

I'm in the midst of my 14 Day Emotional Body Challenge.

I've been sharing resources and guidance to support your emotional body literacy this past week.

It's a very important conversation to have. And one that very few people are willing to talk about, let alone do the actual work it requires.


Your willingness to show up for your self, for your emotional body, is courageous. It is the path of the warrior.


So few people understand the gifts of the emotional body.

In my lifelong journey with grief, loss and pain, I've encountered countless teachers, healers and therapists who aren't walking their talk.

The majority of clients I work with are navigating deep loss, grief, and the lasting impact of unprocessed emotions. Undigested emotion will create issues on all four levels of your being- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.


The resistance to feeling your pain has dire consequences. Avoidance of your grief and sadness hinders your ability to feel joy.


Your willingness to move closer to your sadness, loss, pain and fear will result in an expanded ability to experience the power of happiness and fulfillment.

Simply put, the capacity in which you are showing up for your grief, is the capacity in which you'll be able to hold your joy.


Often we need support with this process of leaning into our pain.

This healing support may need to be personal or communal. But without consistent, safe, non-judgemental holding mirrored to you, reshaping and recreating new possibility for yourself will be near to impossible.


This is the disappointment I have felt with countless therapists, healers and teachers.

Those who I thought would understand my pain and bottomless sorrow, the heavy weight of my lifelong grief. I thought they would get it. But instead I have often been mirrored discomfort and disapproval, their own unprocessed emotion!


This is why it is vital that you do your emotional body work diligently.


You will pass on, mirror and express your emotional body literacy (or illiteracy) to others- consciously or unconsciously.


The only way to heal the pain, is to walk through it- to move with it. To use it. To create with it. But most importantly to bring your presence to it.

Presence is a powerful healing resource. This is the presence you have longed for, that you have always desired- from your parents, friends, family, teachers, healers and therapists.


We all long for presence.


You can start healing- simply by giving yourself the gift of presence.


Often, presence is the simple part. Maybe you can get there, but then what?


Once you arrive in presence, what is the next step?


How do you know if you are actually hearing your emotional body?


How do you extract the wisdom in all the pain and darkness?


Building a relationship (like any relationship) takes time.

It's your slow, consistent steps that let your emotional body know you are truly committed to the relationship. Big, powerful emotions are messengers from your emotional body that you need to pay attention. You need to lean in closer. You need something. But what?


The wisdom of the emotional body is that it will share your needs with you. Your emotional body lets you know when a need is being met, and when a need is not being met.


As a highly sensitive person, you have an extra special emotional body.

You have more internal receptors to communicate what you are feeling. This can be helpful for getting your needs met. But if you aren't paying attention often enough, you will also experience bigger emotional waves as well.


Daily maintenance is crucial- especially for highly sensitive people like you and me.

Make sure you're doing a daily four level check-in.


Here are some other ways to know if you are honoring your emotional body, or if you're frozen, stuck, avoiding or resisting its messages:

-Do you pause to listen to your emotions, to check in with what arrives and then use this to inform your actions and choices?

-Can you be present (very present) to others' emotions and navigate which are "theirs" and which are "yours"? 

- Do you dump your emotions on others as a way to cope with your own overwhelm?

-Do you hate tears? Anger? Do you wish it could be happy and "smooth" all the time for your Self and your relationships? 

-Do you push past your own emotions, trying to skip to the "good stuff"? 

-Do you cut and paste over your feelings- especially around others- in order to keep things "tidy" and not rock the boat? 

-Do you allow time and space for discomfort and emotions like sadness, anger, depression, grief and loneliness? 

-Do you use drugs or alcohol, food and other "feel good" methods to enhance your life? Especially when life feels tough? 
 
Read more about befriending your emotions here


I'll be sharing more emotional body resource with you in the coming days.


Remember that your courage to show up- no matter what is arriving within- is the most courageous thing you can do for yourself. 


Your presence is the first step to awakening.


I'm here to support your journey of emotional body intelligence and awakening to its many gifts.


In loving kindness- for your whole being,


Swati*

Follow along with my 14 Day Emotional Body Challenge here

​Courage, Dear Heart.


It's not about what you do, it's about how you do it.


Showing up for yourself- again and again and again. This is true courage.


In the beginning of my grief journey, and a new relationship with my emotional body, I didn't know how this simple act would change me.


For the majority of my life, I resisted showing up for my emotional body landscape fully.

I didn't have the skills, resources or awareness to show up in presence, to hold myself in the challenges, to find the resources in my pain.


Emotional body literacy is vital for awakening- moving away from an autopilot existence.

Resistance and avoidance to what is moving through your inner terrain means that important needs are not being met. Repeatedly.

This results in longstanding systemic malnourishment- issues, challenges, behaviors and choices that will impact your life in less than fulfilling ways.

The resistance and suppression of your emotional body has dire consequences for all four levels of your being- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.


But there is another way.


A way that takes practice. Patience. Willingness and skillfulness.


The act of arriving in presence- presence of your emotions- is the most courageous thing you can do for yourself today.


When you show up in this way for yourself repeatedly, your skillfulness increases.


My grief journey has been a powerful resource of awakening.

Not because it was a joyful or comfortable ride. It has been the most powerful change agent for me because it was anything but comfortable.

My grief forced me to keep looking at my emotions- even when I didn't want to. Even when the pain was intolerable.


Grief amplifies the emotional body.

And if you can skillfully learn to work with the waves of grief, your emotional body relationship will also dramatically shift. It can become a resource for nourishment, rather than only pain.


In my grief process, I've learned that the most courageous thing I can do for myself is to keep arriving. Arriving within.


I've learned how to keep showing up for myself. For my grief, for my path, for my self, for my needs, for my heart. With practice, this process has become more integrated and easy.


My willingness to keep arriving within and leaning into my pain, has been like a mantra, a tuning fork. Turning me inward- again and again.


What is arriving now?

What do I feel now? 

What do I need now?


The courage to keep showing up for yourself- in your pain- is the warrior's path.

This is the path of Karma Yoga. The bravery to continue to step towards self- no matter the weather. No matter what's arriving within the inner landscape.


This is your empowerment. It is the beginning of creating deeper self trust. It is a dedication to your own resiliency, to life.


Death has slowly taught me how to live again.


Through my willingness to face my own darkness, I'm learning how to hold both- life and death together.
 


In the face of your deepest pain and darkness, you can keep arriving home. 


Use my Creative Ritual below to support this process of arriving home within, deepening your resiliency and inner stability.


I'm here to support your journey of coming home.


Have courage Dear One.


You are on a warrior's path.


Swati*

Make a list. What resources do you use for returning home- to stability, self-trust, safety and security? How do you get back home- to your sacred center?

Notice what is alive and providing support for you, what is feeling nourishing and supportive, and what are the resources you have been relying on for greater nourishment.

The intention of this creative ritual is to spark something within.
To solidify your resources and ground you in the sensation of greater self trust. 

Part I. Coming Home Embodiment Dance. 
1. Start your "Coming Home" embodiment dance from standing or lying down. Begin by bringing presence to a body part within you that feels like a resource. Is there a part of your body that provides you with a sense of stability, comfort and nourishment? Can you sense this feeling in your body somewhere? Let this be your primary body part resource for your dance. Then begin to move from this body part. Let it activate and inspire your Coming Home dance. 

2. As you continue to move with your primary body part, note how the rest of your body responds. How does it connect to the rest of your body? How does it respond and move with the rest of your body? How does the rest of your body respond to it? Let your dance develop as the rest of your body moves with your primary body part resource. Return to the body part in the close of your dance and note the sensations present by doing a 3 level check in. Take at minimum 10 minutes for this portion of the Creative Ritual.  

Read more and complete part 2 of this Creative Ritual- the Harvesting portion  

Join me for a *free* 14 Day Emotional Body Challenge! I'll be sharing resources, tools and extra guidance to navigate these choppy cosmic tides in the coming weeks.Get the Details

{Space Clearing the Heart} Discover how to transform your emotional body in a creative and embodied way.
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