Relationships bring growth, change and awakening. Some relationships provide transformation and healing through love, gentleness, and kindness. Other relationships offer insights and awakening through hurt, pain, grief and hardship. Everyone has different karma with relationships. There are even time periods that support more harmonious relationships and timing that does not.
Studying your jyotish chart can be helpful to understand what Nature will support you with- and what She will not. For example, if you are not in a cycle that energetically aligns with starting new relationships, forcing it will only bring more pain and struggle. However, if you are in a cycle that does easily allow relationships to blossom, you will more easily meet new relationships and be receptive to receiving them. This is the difference between winter and spring. In the springtime, flowers open and welcome the bees. They are receptive and alive with nectar. Just like Nature and her cycles, we too have cycles and rhythms that best support and activate certain desires. Trying to start a relationship when you are in a winter cycle will not bring the bees!
Money and relationships are the top two concerns clients come to me with. Both are Venus issues. Venus represents Shakti, or life force energy, in the jyotish chart. It's either flowing and gushing, or slow and trickling. Balance, harmony, love and generosity are qualities of Venus when she can express herself well. When she feels restricted, her energy will feel hard, poor and challenge love, creativity, money and vitality. We need Venus to support the flow of life- literally.
Venus impacts relationships in a variety of ways. We can see in a jyotish chart the expression of Venus and how happy she is. This directly effects how harmonious relationships are. Some people are born with relationship karma that will always hinder harmony, balance, ease and the flow of love. There are also some who easily experience more fluidity with giving and receiving of love. These are the people that tend to attract, align and sustain relationships more easily. Attracting a relationship is often not as challenging as being fulfilled in a relationship. That is why looking at a jyotish chart to see if happiness and harmony are possible will help understand the long term impact of a relationship.
When Venus is impacted by Saturn or Mars, there can be challenges with relationships. This can be through conjunction, gaze or even the constellation Venus lives in. Saturn can stop or delay a relationship, whereas Mars may spark a relationship but it won't last. If Venus is associated with Rahu, relationships may be unusual, unsafe, deceitful, untrustworthy or unusual. Ketu conjunct Venus or offering his gaze to Venus can create sudden shocks, trauma or disconnections as a result of relationships. If Venus is debilitated in your jyotish chart, it will create more vulnerability with all things relationships. An exalted Venus can cause challenges for the opposite reason; too much of a good thing can be painful!
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Friends, partners, lovers and all relationships have a lasting impact on you. Taking on a relationship means taking on someone's energy field. Does it help or hurt you? Does it help you grow or does it set you back and deplete you? Will it help you align with dharma and life goals or keep you from moving forward? Relationships can be powerfully supportive and life changing, or cause irreversible and dangerous setbacks. I have seen clients set themselves back lifetimes because they made a wrong choice in partners. However, the right partner can also move you forward life times as well.
Picking the right relationship is the key to harmony, the flow of love and inner growth. There are some vital keys for picking a good relationship- whether friend, lover, partner, etc. Deeply listening to your body wisdom is your biggest clue. Through embodiment and somatic resourcing, you can awaken the ability to listen to your body's subtle messages. Clues and insights are always available in your first meeting or interaction. The body will always tell you if it feels safe- or not- but you must be able to hear it. Do you know how to listen and harvest from your inner wisdom?
Learning how to identify who and what a quality relationship feels like, is a life changing skill that can make or break your decisions and choices. There are people who are solid and integrated within. These people make safe, trustworthy partners. Some people are disconnected and disjointed within. These people will not be able to provide a sense of stability and safety for you. They also will not be able to change in order to become safe and solid down the road. A small percentage of these unstable people will eventually be able to change and grow enough to be safe, stable and grounded partners. Knowing what type of person you are working with is key.
A solid, safe and nourishing relationship can't happen without two people who are willing to grow and change. Not sure if you are in a relationship that can provide the growth you are looking for?
Here are four signs that your relationship is challenged. Consider these your red flags!
1) They show you or tell you that they are unavailable- physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
Often from the very beginning of the relationship, an unavailable person will give you clear signals (or even tell you directly) that they are unavailable. Are they just getting out of a previous relationship and still attached? Are they emotionally distant or detached from their body wisdom? Do they look or feel like they are far, far away? Do they use drugs and alcohol to avoid, distract or disconnect from themselves and the world?
The signs of an unavailable person are always detectable. Getting clear on what it feels like to be truly connected with an engaged, available and present person is the medicine for helping you change the pattern of picking unavailable people.
2) Imbalances with giving and receiving.
This is the most common relationship red flag I encounter with my clients. One person in the relationship is giving way more than the other person. Eventually the divide gets so wide, no one is getting their needs met and the malnourishment destroys the relationship as well as the individuals involved.
Do you feel like you give more than you receive? Why are you over-giving? Do you feel like your relationship would end if you stopped giving? Do you feel depleted or run-down in this relationship? Is your physical, mental, emotional or spiritual well-being challenged in this relationship? These are all reminders that your relationship is not balanced and the flow of Shakti is not supporting you. Something will need to change or this imbalance will seriously implications for your mind, body and spirit adversely.
3) Challenges with communication.
It goes without saying that communication sustains a relationship. Good communication brings closeness, a sense of togetherness, support, alignment and harmony. Lack of communication or poor communication can destroy a relationship faster than anything else. Good communication is a skill. Most people are not born as great communicators. It requires a willingness to learn, acquire new language and listening. Above all communication requires excellent listening abilities.
If you don't have a desire to become a good communicator, your relationships will always struggle. Pick partners who also choose to strengthen their communication and listening skills. Relationships who don't want to deepen this skill will prove more challenging than helpful. Non violent communication is an excellent resource to help you and your relationships have more harmonious dialogue.
4) Spiritual incongruence
Most people at the beginning of a relationship overlook this warning sign. However spiritual alignment is what sustains a relationship long after the sparks fade. Without a similar world view and orientation to the universe, a relationship will not be able to deepen or hold you- especially in the most challenging of times. Spiritual alignment is vital for seeing, feeling and awakening togetherness, hope, faith and connection.
It's impossible to see perfectly eye to eye in every relationship, but spiritual alignment can go a long way to help a relationship feel more stable and lasting. Relationships that have a similar spiritual awareness will have a solid foundation. This strength will prove to be the glue through loss, grief, hardship, heartache and challenges. Spiritual congruence can't be forced. It's either there or it isn't.
Seek relationships that honor you, support you and feel safe on a deep, core level. Aligning with like minds and hearts, means that you can walk together for many years to come. Attracting solid, stable and integrated people into your life will support your growth, healing and inner wisdom. The biggest challenge is changing old beliefs, patterns and behaviors so that you can align with true nourishment. Be willing to do your healing work so that you can upgrade what you think is possible for your self and your path.
I'll be sharing more insights about how to pick quality, nourishing relationships in my Jyotish Immersion for Healing Relationships. I will also share resources and tools to help you heal, grow and awaken your inner wisdom. Learn how to deepen your self trust and listening skills!
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JUNE JYOTISH IMMERSION ~
For Healing Relationships
Wouldn't it be nice to stop falling into painful relationships and prevent more heartbreak?!
Clarify what it takes to find a good match, how to tell if someone is solid relationship material and what the red flags are.
Determine what your relationship karma is and
how to tell what types of relationships you attract.
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IN THIS CLASS YOU WILL LEARN:
- What is husband/wife material and how to tell if someone is a good match for you.
- Relationship markers in your Jyotish chart.
Are you able to have good relationships based on your birth karma?
What are your challenges and strengths?
- Help!! I can't find a good relationship! What am I doing wrong?
- Is my relationship doomed?
Or can my partner change for the better?
- Where and how do I find good relationship material?!
- How your trauma, grief and past relationships are impacting your ability to find a good partner.
- Resources to heal and release relationship wounds.
- Deepen your self trust and listening skills!
* This class is suitable for those with basic astrology knowledge.
Not sure if this class is right for you? Please email me with questions.
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