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Deep uprooting takes place in the coming cycle as the Sagittarius full Moon arrives in Mula nakshatra. On June 27th at 22:52 MT, the Moon will be at its fullest. Where are you feeling full in your life? What needs to be pulled up by the root and released? The next two weeks support a deep release, transformation and change. In this process, healing and new possibilities arrive. Are you actively making room for something new to arrive?

Mula nakshatra is the first constellation in Sagittarius, notorious for creating chaos, upheaval and sudden changes. Symbolized by a bundle of roots, this nakshatra brings the kind of release that comes from the root. It's not surface or mundane. Major life changes- inside and out- occur with this lunar constellation. There are three gandantas in the zodiac and Mula is one of them. These gaps between water and fire signs are notorious for creating deep psycho-emotional body shifts. Whatever is released will make room for new awareness, more clarity and life supporting choices. However, don't get lost in the chaos of the change process. What is clearing? What new insights and awareness have emerged? Don't be too hasty to fill the space being created. Linger in the opening and be intentional.

Nirrti, the Dark Goddess, rules over this portion of the sky. She is married to adharma, that which goes against dharma. The chaos and calamity that can be produced with this constellation, can pull you away from right action and a clear path. Often people under the influence of this constellation will endure deep hardship, only to eventually find the spiritual awareness out of all the immense compost. Notice where you are making life too hard. Does it really need to be such a struggle? The way you use your challenges is the key to your awakening. Find the Middle Way- the path of least force. Re-align and re-commit to your dharmic path. Are you on path or making choices that keep you disconnected and further from your purpose?

How to tell if the Dark Goddess is destroying your path.

As the Moon arrives in Sagittarius, it collides with Saturn currently transiting Mula. Saturn brings a certain compression to the Moon, restricting it. This grief Moon will force the emotional body to release past hurts, pain and emotions that have not been fully digested. Expect discomfort in the coming cycle as emotions are churned out, released and transformed. Keep life as simple as possible in the coming cycle. Less is more. Find your ground and come back to your body. A simple routine and lifestyle will be best at this time.

Read more about Saturn in Sagittarius.

Use this time to focus on relationships- with self and others. Who and what needs to be released in order for more stability, safety and support in your life? What emotions are your relationships bringing to the forefront? What needs to be digested and acknowledged more fully? The grief of past loss may be re-emerging. Can you honor the wisdom of your pain? What needs does your grief share with you?

1) Identify your grief.  If you could find your grief living somewhere in your body, where would it be? Lean in closer. Notice the sensations you feel with this grief in your body.

2) As you lean into the grief living in your body, notice if it has a color, shape, or texture. If this grief had a sound, what would it be? Let this sound out of the body until you feel complete.

3) If this grief in your body could share a message with you, what would it say? What does it need?

4) Create an image of your grief, using craypas, paints, collage, or any other medium that inspires you. Spend at least 20 minutes on this image- until it feels complete. Give it a title.

5) Spend some time with your grief image and let it speak to you. If your image could share a message with you, what would it say? Let is respond to these statements:

I am, I want, I need
I sense, I feel, I imagine

The May Full Moon arrives on the 29th at 08:19am MT while Moon is transiting Scorpio and Anuradha nakshatra. Rahu gives his gaze, providing more intensity, overwhelm and uncertainty. Move closer to the shadow and turn it into light! Sun and Mercury look at the Moon from seven houses away, offering precision, focus and determination. However, the debilitated Moon in Scorpio begs for gentleness, softness and ease. Can you find more balance with all possibilities? Are you able to chip away at the illusions and see the reality with more insight and wisdom?

Your spiritual body begs you to lean in and examine it more closely. What have you been unwilling to see or look at? What shadows are keeping you in the dark? You will be asked to dig deeper, lean in and go beyond the surface in this cycle. Relationships, life force energy, vitality, money and creativity are main concerns- which will provoke new needs to be acknowledged. Let Spirit be an ally for your discoveries. Greater stability, alignment and flow is possible in the coming cycle so find the proper channels of support that are needed for this new structure to take hold. Focus on your stable foundation so the life force energy can be received more fluidly. Deepen your relationship with nourishment, food, money and wealth. What does your malnourishment tell you it needs? Where are you resisting receiving what you need?

Anuradha nakshatra is ruled by Mitra, the friend, ally and resource provider. He supports connections, alliances and friendships. Saturn rules this constellation however, requesting stability, support, structure and safety. This portion of the sky demands emotional body attention and intention. Whether you want to or not, your emotional body will request focus. Undigested grief needs to be cleared in order to make space for more of what you do want and need. Where are you resisting your emotional body wisdom? Your capacity to acknowledge and honor your grief, determines your capacity to hold the joy and nourishment of this life as well. Balance shadow and light. Harmonize opposing forces. Heal duality and conflict within. Mitra will support a friendly alliance with your whole body, but first you must be willing to wade in the mud and acknowledge the depths of your suffering. No mud, no lotus.

In the coming waning cycle, find a new balance point. Redefine what depth means for you. Use the storms to clear and purge. Plant your seeds and find your ground. Unify and strengthen your inner strength. Let Spirit be a guiding force for your higher purpose. Clear away the rubble and clarify your path and purpose.

Resisting your grief leaves a lasting impact on your health and well being. Avoiding your "Grief Work" is often the missing link in your healing process. I see this again and again with my clients! Not sure if you're avoiding your grief, losses, pain and undigested emotions?

Here Are 8 Signs that indicate you're likely Resisting or Avoiding Your Grief Work and Emotions.


1) Scan the body and notice what you feel. Imagine you could find where your grief is living in your body. Where does it land? How does it feel? What do you notice?


2) Using craypas, paints or pencils, create an image of your grief. What does your grief feel like for you? Create an image that expresses this feeling using colors, textures and shapes. Allow about 20 minutes for this grief image. Title your image. If your image could speak to you, what would it say?


3) Use your image to inspire a movement exploration. Let your body move in response to your grief image with an intention of "moving with your feelings of grief". What sensations emerge for you during your dance? What awareness? Allow 5 to 10 minutes for this movement exploration. I encourage you to extend this time frame as you recycle this process.


3) Harvesting. In your journal answer these questions:
I am, I want, I need, I sense, I feel, I imagine.

What does your grief tell you it needs?
How can you honor this need?

One of the biggest questions I often hear from my clients is:

How do I connect with the ancestors?

This is especially valuable during times of grief and loss, but the ancestors are also vital for the dharmic path. Most people are unaware of the support that Spirit and the ancestors can offer during life challenges and for life path clarity. We often forget that the well ancestors are here to help us and guide us.

When a loved one transitions to Spirit, they are available to support us in ways that were not possible when they were in human form.

So often though, we attach our human experiences to our relationships with our ancestors. Because of resentments, challenges, the hard parts of that relationship dynamic, we may resist connecting with this person even when they move to the Spirit world. It's an important part of the grief journey in fact- to identify and honor the human feelings, while also making space for something new to arrive. In this process of releasing undigested emotions, a new possible relationship can form with Spirit.

Resisting and avoiding these undigested emotions that are an inevitable part of the relationship, will keep you from being able to connect with the ancestors.

This is the main reason why so many people do not feel connected to their ancestors at all. The resistance or avoidance to the grief, challenging emotions, painful memories, wounds and lineage traumas, can result in a severing and avoidance of the ancestral connection. This is a powerful reason to attend to your grief diligently and to use it as a resource for healing.

When we honor our emotional body- all of it- we also honor our humanity. Clearing, releasing and attending to the feelings, emotions and grief that come with the territory of relationships, also helps create space for the new. If the body is clogged with undigested grief and emotions, then there will literally be no space for something else to arrive.

Releasing the grief allows new life to flow, as well as greater resiliency to arrive. Clearing grief from the bodies, allows space for Spirit to arrive, and also supports the possibility of building a relationship with the ancestors. When we lose the connection with our ancestors, we also lose the thread of dharma, legacy and the powerful resources that create the fabric of the family line.

Remember that the human relationship with your ancestors is not the whole story.

We must attend to the human parts, while also holding space for Spirit. Once a loved one merges with Spirit, they can become an ally, a support- in ways that weren't possible when they were in human form. There is in fact an opportunity to create a new relationship with them after they drop the confines of the body container. Connecting with the ancestors allows us to build a new relationship with those in Spirit- even if we had a challenging relationship with them while they were a human, or even if we had no connection with them at all.

Your willingness to be honest with your feelings, grief, emotions and personal mythology, is a gateway to clearing, healing and releasing the wounds, trauma and challenges that are hidden in your lineage.

The ancestors are not living and therefor can not change, transform or evolve- not without your help. You are the thread that helps them move forward. You are the living being that can help the lineage change, transform and grow. Your healing journey and dharmic path are crucial to the transformation of your ancestors and family line. If you choose to not do your dharmic work, to resist your life purpose and the healing necessary for that to take form, it will seriously impact the lineage and the growth of the ancestors.

Dharma is the most powerful way to honor the ancestors.

From a Vedic perspective, there is nothing higher than dharma. In fact, that is the only reason you incarnated into a human body. Yet most people who arrive in a human body never fully align with their life path or life purpose in their life time. Sadly, the obstacles, fears, illusions and obstructions to the path keep most people from fully embracing their dharma.

Unfortunately this resistance to dharma negatively impacts the ancestors as well. Adharma, that which is against dharma, perpetuates ignorance and suffering. The healing, growth and vitality of the family lineage decays when dharma is lost. Generations of undigested emotions, unprocessed grief and trauma, has resulted in the loss of dharma globally.

These days it is very challenging to align with ones dharma.

My definition of dharma is one that requires reciprocity. By awakening and sharing your gifts, wisdom and purpose with the world, you are healing yourself, your lineage and others in the process. This requires great diligence and self reflection. It is not a path that everyone chooses to take, or even realizes is available to them. The connection to the ancestors is also weakened when adharma sets in. As is the path of healing necessary to awaken one's gifts, purpose and the wisdom within one's lineage.

Remember that it is also the time of Kali Yuga in the Vedic Calendar. This is a time of great decay and chaos. Dharma is almost non-existent. Finding one's path is a miraculous feat. However, it is said, that if and when you are able to align with your dharma, you will have an easier time becoming fully awakened and enlightened. Dharma and awakening go hand in hand.

Building a relationship with the ancestors is vital for healing and transformation.

A relationship with the ancestors is also extremely important for strengthening one's dharmic path. The ancestors are here, ready for you to ask them for support, resources and guidance. They truly want a relationship with you. The ancestors can come in many forms, through multiple experiences, and arrive in a variety of ways. Sometimes you will feel their presence, other times they will arrive through imagery. Often my mother and father send message to me through owl and hawk medicine. You will come to realize their messages the more you invite it into your life. Remember that Nature might also share ancestral wisdom with you. A message from the ancestors could arrive through the physical, mental, emotional or spiritual bodies. Listen carefully.

There are well ancestors and unwell ancestors. Guides and helping spirits. Animal guides and Nature spirits. The ancestral pool of all ancestors, as well as your personal lineage. There are helpful ancestors and mischievous ones. We want to be clear about what ancestors we are choosing to connect with. It is also important to let them know what is acceptable to you and what is not.

I remember one of my teachers sharing a powerful reminder about setting boundaries and intentions with the ancestors. Dagara elder, Sobonfu Some, said that she would often yell and curse at her ancestors, then starve them for days if she was angry at them. Don't forget that you are in charge of the relationship! Let them know how you feel- whether it's anger, rage, sadness, grief, joy or gratitude. Your emotions are like food to them. They eat it, compost it, return it to pure energy. Your job is to acknowledge it and release it. Keep your emotional body moving, flowing and dancing like a river.

Building a relationship with the ancestors is like any other relationship.

It requires diligence, consistency, presence, and willingness. In order to strengthen the connection to your ancestors, you must be willing to feed them regularly. I suggest feeding them daily and creating rituals to support this process.

Here are six ways to feed your ancestors and strengthen the connection you have with them:


1) Create an altar or shrine dedicated to the ancestors.

Create this altar facing east if possible (so you are facing east when you look at it). East is the direction of the dawn and the intention is to bring light to your self and your lineage. Gather items that remind you of your ancestors to place on the shrine. Statues, photos, mementos, offerings from Nature, etc. Place something living on the altar- like a plant. A bowl of spring water (preferably) and sea salt can help clear blockages within the emotional body. Refresh this water regularly and never let it stagnate. Bring offerings to your altar consistently and thank the ancestors for their wisdom. Light a candle, burn palo santo and invoke your intention to connect with the ancestors regularly. Remember to keep this altar clean. Do not create this altar in your bedroom, bathroom or kitchen. Find a common living space or create it outdoors.

2) Bring offerings of food.

Cooking and feeding the ancestors a portion of your meals is one of the most precious ways I like to connect with my ancestors. This is a powerful symbol of gratitude, honoring and literally connecting with your ancestors through the quality of life force. As you cook your meals each day, put a small amount of your food in a bowl and place it on your altar. Let your ancestors know why you are feeding them- what you are grateful for and what needs you have. Do not let this food sit longer than 24 hours. Once the ancestors have been sufficiently fed, compost the food, let it return to Nature, or feed it to an animal companion. You can also eat the food yourself as a way to imbibe the spirit of the ancestors.

3) Grief Rituals.

Attending to your grief is one of the most important parts of building a relationship with the ancestors. Your emotions are like food for them. They receive your grief and eat it like food. They are hungry for your grief, craving it even. Your ability to touch your pain, struggles, suffering and unprocessed emotions, can be supported significantly by the ancestors. They are truly here to support you in this process. Regular grieving is necessary for maintaining health and balance within your entire body. Unprocessed emotions collect within the body and need to be purged regularly in order to create space for life, joy and abundance. Creating a practice of attending to your grief not only allows you to feed the ancestors, but also to release and purge that which is stagnant in your body. If you are able to participate in structured grief rituals multiple times a year, this is ideal. Think of it like a seasonal grief cleanse!

4) Create rituals in your life.

Rituals are like spiritual containers. They provide a sacred structure for touching the unseen, the hidden, the realms beyond the mundane. Ritual reminds us there is more to life beyond this veil of illusion. Rituals can be simple or extravagant. I'm suggesting simple, consistent rituals that help you touch into Spirit regularly. Creating daily touch stones to help you connect, is a helpful part of building a relationship with the ancestors. The simplest form of this is to simply make it a daily practice to pause and check, listen and notice. To not only bring presence to Spirit, but also your entire body- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. Pause, check, notice and breathe. What is arriving? Where are you feeling connected? Disconnected? Can you feel a connection to Spirit? Or do you feel disconnected? What messages are arriving?

5) Spend time in nature.

Remember that Nature is Spirit and Spirit is Nature. They are one and the same. When we spend sufficient time in Nature, we are more easily able to merge with Her wisdom. We align with the oneness that is inherent within all of us, and surrounding us. Nature can bring a sense of awe, and remind us how powerful Spirit truly is. Spend time with Nature daily if possible. Set an intention to use this as your time to connect with the ancestors. The ancestors live in rock, tree, sky, earth, animal and on and on. Notice what messages Spirit can share with you about your truth, purpose, and ancestral wisdom. Ask for messages and listen carefully for the answers.

6) Awaken your dharma.

Your life path and purpose is the ultimate way to feed the ancestors. There is no greater gift to your lineage and to those who have come before you. As you align with your truth and inner wisdom, as you awaken and share your gifts with the world, you bless your lineage in the process. You and the ancestors are both blessed with the gifts and abundance of this journey. Dharma requires that you are willing to lean into your challenges, grief, pain, struggles and suffering. It implies that you are willing to transform, heal and grow as a result of honestly and courageously leaning closer to your shadow. Dharma is not a passive journey, and it is not for the faint of heart. However, the rewards go beyond this life time, beyond this earthly realm. Living your purpose, sharing your gifts in this world and helping others heal and awaken in the process, is the most powerful offering you could ever offer your lineage!


Remember that your ancestors are always near. They are waiting anxiously for you to  acknowledge them, to welcome them into your life. Allow yourself to be willing to receive their message- in all shapes and forms. Be curious and present in the ways they show up. Even if no messages arrive, keep showing up anyway. Eventually, the space you are creating for them to arrive will pay off. Above all, attend to your grief and lean into your healing journey. Aligning with your dharma is the most important reason for being alive in a human body. Ask your ancestors to guide you and support you in this process.

The Sun just landed in Scorpio.

This past month of debilitated Sun is finally complete. Now the light will begin to strengthen in the coming weeks. As Sun passes through Scorpio, your depths will be called upon, as well as grief, unconscious programming and past pain. 

Read more about Sun in Scorpio. 

There have been many complicated transits and increased challenges for months now. Once the Kala Sarpa yoga completes in January, some of the big highs and lows will start to even out. Right now, integration, balance and harmony between extreme polarities- inner and outer- is key.

Exalted Mars in Capricorn is sparking anger, violence and aggression right now. Sun in Scorpio can intensify these strong emotions, if we are not doing our inner work.

Anger is in fact a powerful emotion, a change agent. 

It reminds you that a boundary has been crossed, that something feels unfair, that you have been wronged in some way. When you experience anger, there is an opportunity to find clarity about your needs and step into your power with more purpose. 


Far too often though, anger becomes an unconscious reactive emotion that never gets to truly serve its purpose- to wake you up! 

Right now, the planet and particularly the United States, is being called into action. So many are feeling very old, deeply embedded anger and rage rise to the surface. 

You may be feeling anger as a result of your own personal mythology, as well as a result of the collective consciousness.


Allowing your anger to move through you is potent medicine. But even more important than it's movement, is actually harvesting from this emotion. 

Understanding the deeper layers of your anger can help you awaken to needs, more nourishment and empowerment.

What you don't want to do is suppress your anger, or use it in ways that harm yourself and others. 

Systemically suppressed anger can become depression- which is ultimately a result of resisting your power. Anger is in fact a resource for tapping into your power, purpose and dharma!

Here Are Four Ways to Release Anger Right Now:

#1 

Anger is often a first response emotion. It can become an addiction to feel anger- especially if this is the way you learned how to feel and express. 

Anger happens to be the most socially acceptable emotion, so most people default to anger quite easily. Step number one is to get into the habit of checking in with the four levels of your being and do a self audit. This process can help you identify the experiences happening within your inner landscape so you don't disconnect from your body and emotions. 

Do A Self Audit

#2

What are you angry about? Who are you angry at? Consider this your challenge. Now use my Challenge Creative Ritual to identify, move and transform your anger into potent awareness. 

#3

Move your anger safely. Release anger and rage by screaming, yelling, punching pillows, throwing things (without harming yourself or anyone/anything else) and stomping. Get the sound of your anger out in a safe, contained space. Let the emotion move out and through your body.

#4

Tap and Rant. EFT is a powerful resource for moving emotions- especially anger. Tap on the heart point in the center of the chest or tap through the points as you speak your anger aloud. Don't hold back. Tapping through the points as you express your anger, will support its movement and release, without it getting stuck in your body. 

Need some extra support? Use my Tapping Meditation Podcast for Big Emotions.  

#5

Ready to change your relationship with big emotions- especially challenging emotions like anger, grief and sadness?


I'm letting a few more people into my special nine month course- 
Awakening Through Grief, in light of the recent election.

So many people need this emotional body work! And our world family needs it too! 

If you are ready to use your grief as a powerful healing resource, please join me for this sacred journey into Heart and Spirit.

Get the Details

This is the last chance to join Awakening Through Grief as we've already started classes!

Here's to your embodied and empowered path. One that is a re-connection of body, emotions, mind and spirit!


Swati*

There is something no one seems to be talking about in regard to loss, grief and death.

Everyone is effected by grief. Everyone.

The majority of people are resistant to the word, let alone the work it takes to heal, transform and digest this incredibly powerful part of being a human.

Most people are jumping over their losses, never fully digesting them, nor integrating them into their body, or their life. Without proper integration physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, grief gets pushed deep within the bodies, resulting in multiple challenges, disturbances and dis-eases.

I've been talking a lot lately about undigested grief and even worse, hidden grief.

These are very real issues that are effecting in all honesty, everyone, to some degree. It's not a radical notion to say that everyone on the planet is grieving- whether they are conscious of it or not.

Grief is real. It's a real part of life.

Whether you want to look at it directly, or push it away and negate it, it's still a part of your life- consciously or unconsciously.

Grief indicates that you've experienced a loss on some level- either big or small. These losses really add up.

Part of the grief journey that no one is talking about, is the impact all of your life losses have on your finances.

It's amazing to me that this is never part of the grief conversation.

Debts, lack of money, an inability to make, save or acquire money, are all issues related to loss, to grief. Particularly grief that has not been properly attended to- meaning it hasn't been fully digested or integrated.

Any loss that you've experienced in your life gets stored in your body memory. It's a part of your life and will impact you- your future choices, actions, behaviors, and experiences.

Money is nothing more than a physical resource of nourishment, life force energy. It's a human created expression of abundance, the wealth of nature and her bounty. The ability to receive money, is intimately connected to your ability to receive nourishment- on all levels of life- which includes physical, mental, emotional and spiritual bodies.

This is why the wealth houses of the jyotish chart are also the houses of eating, digesting and giving (2nd, 6th and 10th houses). If you can't eat the nourishment, digest it and assimilate its nutrients fully, you also won't have much of an offering to give to the world. You will have very little life force energy in which to express your powerful gift. .

If your channels are blocked by undigested grief, you won't be able to receive or create vitality, or life force energy. This lack of life force energy impacts your receptivity, your ability to receive nourishment, directly.

What happens when years and years of undigested grief and losses are not honored and healed? Debts pile up (literally your losses pile up). Houses 6 and 8 in your jyotish chart are also houses of digestion, stomach and elimination. They are considered the most challenging houses of the chart, causing serious health issues and not surprisingly are both connected to losses, debt and financial struggles. 

Simply put, when you clean up your bodies (physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually) and process, clear and release the undigested emotions and experiences of life, you have much more receptivity. You literally have more ability to give and receive life force energy.

On the material level of life, this means you have the ability to give and receive more money as well.

Lakshmi is a powerful embodiment of this free flowing energy within the channels of the body. The golden coins pouring from her palms, express the abundance of nourishment- inside and out. Health is wealth! But when any of the four bodies are clogged with toxic byproducts of undigested food, experiences and emotions, the channels of the body will not be open and awake. A dullness will set in and this will impact all levels of your life- even your relationship with money.

Almost every single person who has inquired about my nine month Awakening Through Grief Course has shared money problems are impacting their decision to join the course. Debt has been a very personal part of my grief process as well. I know there is a direct correlation between grief and money, because I've experienced it personally.

One of the most direct correlations between grief and money challenges has to do with stability and support.

When you've experienced a loss- whether large or small- it impacts your stability, your sense of support. This instability impacts your sense of safety- personally, physically, as well as materially. Your experience of life and the world around you becomes destabilized.

So it makes sense that because money represents safety and support, as well as comfort and stability, when life is feeling unstable and unsafe, your money will be impacted as well. Money is energy, so it will reflect your feelings. If you don't feel safe, your money will show it.

When you clear, clean, heal and transform grief, and allow the emotional body to find greater resiliency, this has a positive impact on your receptivity, your ability to receive nourishment- including money.

That is why I've created a nine month course Awakening Through Grief, to support the healing and transformation of your grief. To help you digest, heal and integrate losses- on all four levels of your being- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

This very unique nine month course is not just about healing grief, it is really about allowing you to integrate your losses with life, so that you can experience more resiliency, more life force energy.

When you clean up your undigested grief, you suddenly have a lot more space to create, manifest, align and receive the nourishment of life more fully!

The work that we do in this course will help you heal, transform and release grief- whether it's impacting you physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually- or all of the above. This process is creative, embodied and whole. It's a sacred journey of deeply integrating loss and helping you expand into life more fully.

Please join me for this powerful nine month journey that will truly change your relationship with loss and life. Transform your losses into life!

Remember that if you're experiencing financial problems, this means you are really experiencing life force problems.

You are not able to receive life force energy fully. Your channels are clogged, your receptivity is not awake! Grief, undigested emotions and experiences are blocking your life force energy which will not only impact health, but also finances. Loss equates debt- no matter the story.

Learn how to awaken your receptivity through healing and releasing your grief. Step into a more resilient, embodied and empowering life!

Join me for Awakening Through Grief, a sacred nine month journey to awaken Heart and Spirit.

Last chance to join is October 26th!!

Tapping Meditation for Resistance

Use this Tapping Meditation to work through your grief process- when you feel stuck, afraid or resistant to change. Remember that we always start with "truth tapping" by expressing feelings and experiences that feel challenging. This is a vital part of the process and paves the way for transformation and healing.

In the podcast below, I share a tapping (EFT) sequence with you that will guide you through transforming and releasing the old stories and invite in more receptivity. Remember, we start with identifying the challenges, then moving into possibility and desires in order to transform our shadow into light.

Use this podcast as you tap through these points:

Karate chop point (side of the hand).
Crown of the head.
Eyebrow point (above the eye).
Side of the eye.
Under the eye.
Under the nose.
Chin point (crease of the chin).
Throat point (collar bone/throat chakra).
Heart point (center of chest).
Stomach point (above the navel).
Side body (nipple line at side of chest).

Tap six to ten times on each point and just keep cycling through the points. Repeat the phrases I use aloud. Notice any thoughts, stories, memories or emotions that emerge as you tap. These are important pieces to return to, do more tapping on, as a way to clear blockages. As always, if the words I use don't work for you, change them to support your process more fully.

Share your experiences below! What emerged for you in this process? Excited to hear from you!

​Today I hit my breaking point.

I've been bumping up against so many unmet needs recently. This process of confronting all my holes and emptiness intensified today. All the places in me where I feel empty. Places within where I don't feel nourished. These many places of malnourishment. The places in me that can't seem to get what they really need. This shows up as dissatisfaction, disappointment and loneliness. It is the part of me that feels separate from others and resists the nourishment it actually yearns for.

This place.

I took an unconscious, silent vow a long time ago. This vow has meant that I must stay in the role of giving and support. Support for my family and their needs; to be the caretaker in the tribe. I took this vow as a child in order to get certain needs met, to survive. I learned the duty of giving, yet I now lack the skill of asking for what I need, and the ability to fully receive.

Receiving is vulnerable territory.

I wasn't taught how to be in the role of receiving or how to ask for my needs to be met. As a result, many needs continue to go unmet. The malnourishment continues to emerge and the fear of being vulnerable enough to ask for what I really need, feels overwhelming. 

My mother was a powerful giver. 

She affirmed her love in extraordinary ways to me- daily. She showed up for me, spoke words of love and affirmation continually and constantly reminded me that I was loved and cherished, that I was a special part of this universe. Since her sudden passing several years ago, this void within me has deepened. It has felt impossible to fill my daily love quotient. So I have just about given up.

But these needs have not gone away. In fact, they are now starting to get louder. The emptiness is starting to be more forceful with me these days.

The painful emotions emerging recently have been helping me identify what it is that I truly need. There are many needs.

But today, I identified the biggest need right now: hearing words of affirmation; knowing that others see me and honor me for who I am, how I am. Part of me is still too terrified to really ask for these needs to be met in my intimate relationships. Part of me is still too afraid of being this vulnerable.

So I took these needs and these emotions with me on my evening walk. I tapped (EFT) on the pain- speaking aloud the story and the feelings, the emptiness, the vulnerability, the lack. I started to move these heavy emotions and the old stories; the wounding of always being in the support role and how uncomfortable it feels to fully receive. I tapped out this old story of my vow, my duty, to care take others and the weight of this responsibility.

On the other side of this story and these emotions, I found an opening.

I decided I needed to created a new practice. A practice to honor my needs and to actually practice how to express these needs. A way to actually practice how to ask for my needs to be met.

I invite you to join me in this practice of asking for your needs to be met.

It's a simple practice, but one that takes courage.

Step 1) 

Every day check in with your inner landscape. Start with a four level check in. Notice what's arriving on the four levels of your being. Pay close attention to the emotional body.

If you've been following along with my posts the past few weeks, I've been sharing resources specifically for the emotional body. By now you've heard me say that the emotional body helps us get our needs met. Why?! Because underneath the emotion you are feeling is in fact a need. A need that is either being met- or not being met. Your job is to ask and inquire about the underlying need. What is the need underneath the emotion?

Step 2) 

Identify what you need and find your words. For example say: "I need to hear that I matter." or "I need to hear that I'm cherished, loved and supported."  Today, I actually needed to hear that "life is going to turn out OK." Stick to the statement "I need" for now. 

Be as specific as you can. This is part of the practice. Identifying exactly what your need is. Notice how you want this need to be met- verbally, with an action, with presence, etc.

Step 3)

Vocalize what you need. The next step is to practice sharing your need with at least five close family or friends. People that you trust and feel safe with. Ask them exactly what you need and how you need them to show up for you. I encourage you to practice this daily. Check in with what you need, identify how you need this to be met, then practice expressing this need to others.

Pay close attention to the tone of your words as you speak your needs. Make sure you are asking from a place of loving kindness. You can also practice texting or emailing your needs to others.

Step 4)

Receive. The last piece is to receive the nourishment arriving. Allow yourself to be fed. When someone responds to your request with affirmation, presence or an action, allow yourself to receive it. How does it feel when your need is honored, when it is met? Where do you feel this in your body? Drop into the receptive and do so consciously. This is practice for arriving in receiving. A process of eating and digesting the nourishment of life.


I started this practice tonight. After receiving many offerings of love and gratitude, verbal nourishment, I feel full. My heart feels softer, gentler, more accepting and willing to surrender to life. 

I will be continuing this practice of receiving. Let's practice together!

Share your experiences with me below. Remember when you share a comment here, you are connecting directly with me.

In love gratitude for your whole being,

Swati*


I'll be sharing more resources in the coming days for those of you, like me, who are navigating the grief process- a lifelong journey of deepening your emotional body wisdom. Look for more resources, guidance and support coming in the next few weeks to support you with your healing and transformation through loss. I'll also be sharing a special offering for those of you dedicated to your spiritual awakening through grief. Follow Along