Relationships bring growth, change and awakening. Some relationships provide transformation and healing through love, gentleness, and kindness. Other relationships offer insights and awakening through hurt, pain, grief and hardship. Everyone has different karma with relationships. There are even time periods that support more harmonious relationships and timing that does not.
Studying your jyotish chart can be helpful to understand what Nature will support you with- and what She will not. For example, if you are not in a cycle that energetically aligns with starting new relationships, forcing it will only bring more pain and struggle. However, if you are in a cycle that does easily allow relationships to blossom, you will more easily meet new relationships and be receptive to receiving them. This is the difference between winter and spring. In the springtime, flowers open and welcome the bees. They are receptive and alive with nectar. Just like Nature and her cycles, we too have cycles and rhythms that best support and activate certain desires. Trying to start a relationship when you are in a winter cycle will not bring the bees!
Money and relationships are the top two concerns clients come to me with. Both are Venus issues. Venus represents Shakti, or life force energy, in the jyotish chart. It's either flowing and gushing, or slow and trickling. Balance, harmony, love and generosity are qualities of Venus when she can express herself well. When she feels restricted, her energy will feel hard, poor and challenge love, creativity, money and vitality. We need Venus to support the flow of life- literally.
Venus impacts relationships in a variety of ways. We can see in a jyotish chart the expression of Venus and how happy she is. This directly effects how harmonious relationships are. Some people are born with relationship karma that will always hinder harmony, balance, ease and the flow of love. There are also some who easily experience more fluidity with giving and receiving of love. These are the people that tend to attract, align and sustain relationships more easily. Attracting a relationship is often not as challenging as being fulfilled in a relationship. That is why looking at a jyotish chart to see if happiness and harmony are possible will help understand the long term impact of a relationship.
When Venus is impacted by Saturn or Mars, there can be challenges with relationships. This can be through conjunction, gaze or even the constellation Venus lives in. Saturn can stop or delay a relationship, whereas Mars may spark a relationship but it won't last. If Venus is associated with Rahu, relationships may be unusual, unsafe, deceitful, untrustworthy or unusual. Ketu conjunct Venus or offering his gaze to Venus can create sudden shocks, trauma or disconnections as a result of relationships. If Venus is debilitated in your jyotish chart, it will create more vulnerability with all things relationships. An exalted Venus can cause challenges for the opposite reason; too much of a good thing can be painful!
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Friends, partners, lovers and all relationships have a lasting impact on you. Taking on a relationship means taking on someone's energy field. Does it help or hurt you? Does it help you grow or does it set you back and deplete you? Will it help you align with dharma and life goals or keep you from moving forward? Relationships can be powerfully supportive and life changing, or cause irreversible and dangerous setbacks. I have seen clients set themselves back lifetimes because they made a wrong choice in partners. However, the right partner can also move you forward life times as well.
Picking the right relationship is the key to harmony, the flow of love and inner growth. There are some vital keys for picking a good relationship- whether friend, lover, partner, etc. Deeply listening to your body wisdom is your biggest clue. Through embodiment and somatic resourcing, you can awaken the ability to listen to your body's subtle messages. Clues and insights are always available in your first meeting or interaction. The body will always tell you if it feels safe- or not- but you must be able to hear it. Do you know how to listen and harvest from your inner wisdom?
Learning how to identify who and what a quality relationship feels like, is a life changing skill that can make or break your decisions and choices. There are people who are solid and integrated within. These people make safe, trustworthy partners. Some people are disconnected and disjointed within. These people will not be able to provide a sense of stability and safety for you. They also will not be able to change in order to become safe and solid down the road. A small percentage of these unstable people will eventually be able to change and grow enough to be safe, stable and grounded partners. Knowing what type of person you are working with is key.
A solid, safe and nourishing relationship can't happen without two people who are willing to grow and change. Not sure if you are in a relationship that can provide the growth you are looking for?
Here are four signs that your relationship is challenged. Consider these your red flags!
1) They show you or tell you that they are unavailable- physically, mentally, emotionally or spiritually.
Often from the very beginning of the relationship, an unavailable person will give you clear signals (or even tell you directly) that they are unavailable. Are they just getting out of a previous relationship and still attached? Are they emotionally distant or detached from their body wisdom? Do they look or feel like they are far, far away? Do they use drugs and alcohol to avoid, distract or disconnect from themselves and the world?
The signs of an unavailable person are always detectable. Getting clear on what it feels like to be truly connected with an engaged, available and present person is the medicine for helping you change the pattern of picking unavailable people.
2) Imbalances with giving and receiving.
This is the most common relationship red flag I encounter with my clients. One person in the relationship is giving way more than the other person. Eventually the divide gets so wide, no one is getting their needs met and the malnourishment destroys the relationship as well as the individuals involved.
Do you feel like you give more than you receive? Why are you over-giving? Do you feel like your relationship would end if you stopped giving? Do you feel depleted or run-down in this relationship? Is your physical, mental, emotional or spiritual well-being challenged in this relationship? These are all reminders that your relationship is not balanced and the flow of Shakti is not supporting you. Something will need to change or this imbalance will seriously implications for your mind, body and spirit adversely.
3) Challenges with communication.
It goes without saying that communication sustains a relationship. Good communication brings closeness, a sense of togetherness, support, alignment and harmony. Lack of communication or poor communication can destroy a relationship faster than anything else. Good communication is a skill. Most people are not born as great communicators. It requires a willingness to learn, acquire new language and listening. Above all communication requires excellent listening abilities.
If you don't have a desire to become a good communicator, your relationships will always struggle. Pick partners who also choose to strengthen their communication and listening skills. Relationships who don't want to deepen this skill will prove more challenging than helpful. Non violent communication is an excellent resource to help you and your relationships have more harmonious dialogue.
4) Spiritual incongruence
Most people at the beginning of a relationship overlook this warning sign. However spiritual alignment is what sustains a relationship long after the sparks fade. Without a similar world view and orientation to the universe, a relationship will not be able to deepen or hold you- especially in the most challenging of times. Spiritual alignment is vital for seeing, feeling and awakening togetherness, hope, faith and connection.
It's impossible to see perfectly eye to eye in every relationship, but spiritual alignment can go a long way to help a relationship feel more stable and lasting. Relationships that have a similar spiritual awareness will have a solid foundation. This strength will prove to be the glue through loss, grief, hardship, heartache and challenges. Spiritual congruence can't be forced. It's either there or it isn't.
Seek relationships that honor you, support you and feel safe on a deep, core level. Aligning with like minds and hearts, means that you can walk together for many years to come. Attracting solid, stable and integrated people into your life will support your growth, healing and inner wisdom. The biggest challenge is changing old beliefs, patterns and behaviors so that you can align with true nourishment. Be willing to do your healing work so that you can upgrade what you think is possible for your self and your path.
I'll be sharing more insights about how to pick quality, nourishing relationships in my Jyotish Immersion for Healing Relationships. I will also share resources and tools to help you heal, grow and awaken your inner wisdom. Learn how to deepen your self trust and listening skills!
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JUNE JYOTISH IMMERSION ~
For Healing Relationships
Wouldn't it be nice to stop falling into painful relationships and prevent more heartbreak?!
Clarify what it takes to find a good match, how to tell if someone is solid relationship material and what the red flags are.
Determine what your relationship karma is and
how to tell what types of relationships you attract.
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IN THIS CLASS YOU WILL LEARN:
- What is husband/wife material and how to tell if someone is a good match for you.
- Relationship markers in your Jyotish chart.
Are you able to have good relationships based on your birth karma?
What are your challenges and strengths?
- Help!! I can't find a good relationship! What am I doing wrong?
- Is my relationship doomed?
Or can my partner change for the better?
- Where and how do I find good relationship material?!
- How your trauma, grief and past relationships are impacting your ability to find a good partner.
- Resources to heal and release relationship wounds.
- Deepen your self trust and listening skills!
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The May Full Moon arrives on the 29th at 08:19am MT while Moon is transiting Scorpio and Anuradha nakshatra. Rahu gives his gaze, providing more intensity, overwhelm and uncertainty. Move closer to the shadow and turn it into light! Sun and Mercury look at the Moon from seven houses away, offering precision, focus and determination. However, the debilitated Moon in Scorpio begs for gentleness, softness and ease. Can you find more balance with all possibilities? Are you able to chip away at the illusions and see the reality with more insight and wisdom?
Your spiritual body begs you to lean in and examine it more closely. What have you been unwilling to see or look at? What shadows are keeping you in the dark? You will be asked to dig deeper, lean in and go beyond the surface in this cycle. Relationships, life force energy, vitality, money and creativity are main concerns- which will provoke new needs to be acknowledged. Let Spirit be an ally for your discoveries. Greater stability, alignment and flow is possible in the coming cycle so find the proper channels of support that are needed for this new structure to take hold. Focus on your stable foundation so the life force energy can be received more fluidly. Deepen your relationship with nourishment, food, money and wealth. What does your malnourishment tell you it needs? Where are you resisting receiving what you need?
Anuradha nakshatra is ruled by Mitra, the friend, ally and resource provider. He supports connections, alliances and friendships. Saturn rules this constellation however, requesting stability, support, structure and safety. This portion of the sky demands emotional body attention and intention. Whether you want to or not, your emotional body will request focus. Undigested grief needs to be cleared in order to make space for more of what you do want and need. Where are you resisting your emotional body wisdom? Your capacity to acknowledge and honor your grief, determines your capacity to hold the joy and nourishment of this life as well. Balance shadow and light. Harmonize opposing forces. Heal duality and conflict within. Mitra will support a friendly alliance with your whole body, but first you must be willing to wade in the mud and acknowledge the depths of your suffering. No mud, no lotus.
In the coming waning cycle, find a new balance point. Redefine what depth means for you. Use the storms to clear and purge. Plant your seeds and find your ground. Unify and strengthen your inner strength. Let Spirit be a guiding force for your higher purpose. Clear away the rubble and clarify your path and purpose.
Resisting your grief leaves a lasting impact on your health and well being. Avoiding your "Grief Work" is often the missing link in your healing process. I see this again and again with my clients! Not sure if you're avoiding your grief, losses, pain and undigested emotions?
Here Are 8 Signs that indicate you're likely Resisting or Avoiding Your Grief Work and Emotions.
1) Scan the body and notice what you feel. Imagine you could find where your grief is living in your body. Where does it land? How does it feel? What do you notice?
2) Using craypas, paints or pencils, create an image of your grief. What does your grief feel like for you? Create an image that expresses this feeling using colors, textures and shapes. Allow about 20 minutes for this grief image. Title your image. If your image could speak to you, what would it say?
3) Use your image to inspire a movement exploration. Let your body move in response to your grief image with an intention of "moving with your feelings of grief". What sensations emerge for you during your dance? What awareness? Allow 5 to 10 minutes for this movement exploration. I encourage you to extend this time frame as you recycle this process.
3) Harvesting. In your journal answer these questions:
I am, I want, I need, I sense, I feel, I imagine.
What does your grief tell you it needs?
How can you honor this need?
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Just after Venus shifts into Gemini, the Sun arrives in Taurus for the coming month. The May new Moon arrives on the 15th at 05:48 am MT with Sun and Moon newly entering sidereal Taurus. Both Sun and Moon are positioned at less than a degree during the new Moon. Considered sandhi, in the netherworlds between signs, masculine and feminine are extra sensitive in the coming days. There is vulnerability at the time of the New Moon and throughout the waxing cycle, however there is also great spiritual insight available as well. A sense of beginning and possibility arrives. Open to something new and linger in the liminal. What are you calling in? Who and what are you inviting into your life? Imagine, manifest and create!
Krittika nakshatra is on the horizon at the time of the new Moon and both Sun and Moon transit Krittika nakshatra as well. This constellation cuts, severs and sharply removes excess. Ketu gives his drishti to the Sun and Moon, promoting sudden release, loss and restructuring. Moon will be exalted in Taurus, at its most expansive degrees and in his favorite sign, at the time of the empty Moon.
Emotions may feel bigger than normal, though there is also great potential to clear and release stagnant emotions, feelings and grief. Support the release process now and in the coming waxing cycle. Krittika nakshatra is ruled by the fire god, Agni. He burns, transforms and supports the alchemy of change. Healing is created through the transformation process and the space that is created through release. What space are you creating in your life? What new nourishment do you need? How are you attending to the space that is being created right now?
In order to create the new, you will be asked to clear, cut and sever ties with the past. Lower vibrations and energies need to be lifted. Cut, clear and delete old programming and mental body stories. Let go of relationships and energies holding you back. Give yourself an upgrade and ask for more. Sudden insights and awakening will be possible during the new Moon and in the coming cycle. Creating time and space for listening to your inner wisdom is essential in order to gather the insights coming forth. What is holding you back from saying yes to more of what you need? What is changing and transforming within you and your life?
This is a precious time to intentionally create space for more nourishment, ease and grace in your life. Be clear with what you need and ask for gentleness. Acknowledge what must be released and cut in order to get what you truly need and deserve. Don't be afraid to be radical in your desires and your cord cutting.
1) Using craypas, paints or pencils, create an image of your nourishment. What does nourishment feel like for you? Create an image that expresses this feeling using colors, textures and shapes. Allow 20 minutes at minimum for this nourishment image. Title your image.
2) Use your image to inspire a movement exploration. Let your body move in response to your nourishment image with an intention of "moving with your feelings of nourishment". What sensations emerge for you during your dance? What awareness? Allow 5 to 10 minutes for this movement exploration. I encourage you to extend this time frame as you recycle this process.
3) Harvesting. In your journal answer these questions:
I am, I want, I need, I sense, I feel, I imagine.
What deeply nourishes me? What no longer nourishes me?
Where do I feel support in my life? Where do I need more support?
What am I opening to? What am I closing to?
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